Monday, June 30, 2014


We had been married for three years when we agreed that there was more than enough love to go around. The kid could sleep in a laundry basket and not complain and really, how much could they possibly eat?

It amazes me to realize that thirty-four years have passed since I took the first photo. Jim was completely enthralled with Colin and his own elevation to King of our world. He would tell anyone who asked that he cried when he saw his son come into the world; that it was the most amazing experience of his life..this from a man who jumped out of airplanes in the Army.

Monday, June 16, 2014

Father's Day

  When we first married, I had no doubt that Jimmy would be a good father someday; he was the first boy and a middle child of six kids. There's a supervisory position if I ever saw one.

This was a good thing because I had my doubts about my mothering capabilities. I never planned on having children, much less marrying, so how fortunate was I to marry a guy who was so at ease with the most important job in the world.

We had Jim's memorial party here yesterday and what I heard most from friends and family was what fine young men we raised, but I have to make sure everyone who didn't know us as a family, knows what huge role Jimmy played in our son's lives.

 I have so many pictures of him doing the typical Daddy things, but what really mattered was how they saw him be and act and do things in the world when I wasn't there with a camera.

Jimmy made it possible for me to stay home and be a full time Mom for seven years and yet I could count on him to take over parenting if I needed a minute, even as he walked through the door, tired after a day's work. 

And when I did go back to work full time when Jake was only two, he had full charge and responsibility for the boys while I worked the second shift. We would high five and hug in the driveway and I would hand off the conn to him. They never had sitters because they had their Dad and I never had a moment's worry about them. He loved them with all of his heart and I know this weekend has been very bittersweet for them. For all of us. 

Thursday, June 12, 2014

another milestone

Happy birthday my darling. 

We're having Jim's memorial party here at the house in a few days.

Thursday, June 5, 2014

wedding, day 2

For those of you who weren't there, when the judge arrived at our house (twenty minutes late) he took us aside and let us know that once he finally found our address he realized that he  was out of his jurisdiction. He performed the ceremony anyway, but told us we would have to be at his court the next morning at 8:00 to make everything legal.

So, after a day long wedding and entertaining stragglers until the wee hours, here we are, wrinkled clothes, dead flowers and all. I insisted on the bridal gear, but the judge turned up in a baseball uniform! He was on his way to a game and stampeded through the reading of the ceremony in record time,  pausing to ask Jimmy if he had changed his mind since the last time they spoke.  "No? Good. I now pronounce you legally man and wife. "

And of course you wanted honeymoon pictures. There weren't many, but this one captures the feeling.

After driving six hours with our dog Shag in the back seat we arrived at a borrowed hunting lodge in the middle of nowhere New York to three days of mostly pouring rain. 

We got an urgent call from Jim's boss - (he was needed back due to a death in the boss's family) and we broke camp and returned home.

The honeymoon reconvened the following weekend with a day at the Bronx Zoo and the Botanical Gardens and another at Great Adventures Park in NJ. Epic.

It didn't really matter where we were or what we were doing as long as we were together.

Wednesday, June 4, 2014

June 4, 1977

We got all tarted up,  invited a bunch of family and friends and a judge over to our house.  Traded rings, said the words and partied long into the night. 

Monday, June 2, 2014


It's June, our month of celebrations. Jake's birthday is today. I remember so well how calm and confident Jimmy was with Jake.

After the firestorm that was Colin and the five year lull that followed, Jake was a piece of cake for all of us. Contrary to most babies, his first word was "Da"